What are we doing? Have we gone nuts?  I guess we have, because we have overrated love - love that's not of matrimony - since I can remember. Have we realized this mistake? All we have done we say is "for love's sake." Do we really know what we're talking about?

Maybe you're wondering why I would say that love is overrated. It's simple really: everyday (in my country) at around 5pm it starts. Yes, dramas. I have no intention of ruining their reputations, but there's something in them that makes loving "hard."

We all, who at least take a glimpse of these shows, see how the male and female protagonist take great risks just to be with each other. Be it overcoming sickness or family issues, they almost always live happily ever after, of course. Their heroic efforts to get the guy or girl make our hearts and minds jealous. When plots thicken, we tremble. When the main characters get out of the predicament with his damsel, we rejoice.

All those shows that we, or some of us, watch appeal to one of our weakest points: the emotion. Because it hits us right in our hearts, our emotions gets bouncy, waiting to explode at any moment. When someone dies in the show we cry. When someone gets save, we smile. But the best is when the male and female finally gets what they want - for both of them to be one.

Dramas take these "two into one" scenarios to a different level. Writers, who are very creative and ingenious, make a story with a lot of twists and turns. These plots mostly do not go beyond the realm of human capability. What I mean is, the dramas may happen to us. When we think that it may happen to us, our mind draws up many pictures of what may happen and whatnot. This is when we imagine that we are the protagonist, may we be the knight or the damsel.

The problem is, some of these soaps make themes about how a guy is trying to get the girl but is having a very very hard time. When we see episodes of the show, we don't want to do the mistakes of the guy. We begin to think worse things that may happen to us. We feel insecure of ourselves. Our emotions betray us. We have fell to the drama's pit.

When this happens, we think that loving someone like a friend, an acquaintance, or some beautiful stranger is hard. We don't want to make mistakes, hence we try to avoid so much things that we forget about love. We begin to think that love is so hard that it's probably better just to wait till everything about ourselves is ready. Unlike the hero in tv, we must make everything as perfect as possible.

Love is hard now, right? Wrong.

When we start hearing from our friends how they were left by their girlfriend or boyfriend. We feel more anxious. We start to think, "what if that happens to me?" We are scared of being rejected. We are afraid of being hurt. We don't like to feel the pain that our friends felt just because of love.

Hard now? Almost there.

What's more, when we see some couple cuddling and speaking with their noses touching the other's, we feel jealous. We want to do those, but we can't. We can't, because we're afraid. We want to love, but we think it's hard. We want to escape its jail, but we have locked ourselves in.

Now? Getting hot.

Finally, when we see that someone we love, our hearts begin to pound harder and faster. We walk towards him/her. When we're almost there right beside that person, we try to blurt out words. But suddenly, we notice someone smiling at him/her with some picnic basket at one hand and the other hand waving at him/her. With crushed hearts, we retreat knowing that the one we love has another person in his/her heart. We have failed ourselves because we did not take the risk of love.

Now? Yup. Love is now hard.

Now don't get me wrong, some people, I know, will disagree about these theoretical situations. They may choose to follow the protagonist of the dramas and just tweak some of the stuffs they do to get the girl/guy. I have nothing against that. My point is, from what I have seen and experienced, most of the time we all go through this phase. When we go through this phase, we overrate love. I didn't say that love gets overrated always. I just said that we have overrated love time and again.

I have yet to see one friend of mine not go through this, thus I have no remedies even for myself. I have one thing to say, though. I believe that love is more fun this way. Although I would not like to experience it this way, I think it makes life more interesting and more random. I would hate it if I would go through it, but hey, that's life.

Love is overrated, all right. I guess that's just the way it was meant to be.

I do not know why or where or when
I did not care how or what happened
Who could have thought of this
When my world was about to break

I had nothing inside of me
I am no mage that can foresee
I did not expect that this could be
This thing has grown internally

I have long tried to say
I have dream of it every minute everyday
And now is the time to say

I love you
That’s all I can say
I love you
Is what I think of every single day
And if those words are not enough
Then maybe you should let me
Be with you and see it through

I have longed for and yearned for
That I could speak of what’s within
I dreamed and hoped and wished
To see you and hold you and shout out this feeling

So I write this song
This song for you
For what I feel, I can’t say to you
Hear me out cause maybe you love me too